Thursday, July 31, 2014
Ray Rice’s Apology
NBC is carrying the raw video of Ray Rice's apology for beating up his wife.
In the apology Rice says two contradictory things:
"That's not me." "That's not who I am as a man."
"I will have to live with this, with what I've done for the rest of my life."
He seems to want to learn from this, and to make amends for his action. But at the same time he seems to want to distance himself from the beating. If that is "not me" doing the beating, then who is it? And how will he learn and grow unless he confronts whatever part of the "me" it was that did the beating?
The problem with Rice's apology is that he doesn't want to admit that it was him, he is totally capable of administering a beat down to his wife. If you aren't willing to face your demons you aren't going to overcome them. Rice will be forever stuck as a domestic violence "dry drunk," a phenomenon similar to the drunk who is able to stave off drunken incidents for a very long time – but who, when it comes, indulges deeply in their passion for alcohol.